I'm still wrestling internally with some personal relationships that I have. I'm still working on my praying for this person(s); it's not always easy. Some days I just want to walk away from these relationships for they seem doomed, but then I'll hear or see something that keeps me going one more day. When people are in your everyday life and you cannot escape contact with them, it can be hard when your values and morals don't line up.
In 1 Peter 3:1 it states, "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;" (I believe that this can apply to more than just husbands - close friends, family members, co-workers...anyone can be won by seeing Christians live a Godly life) But, Psalm 55:19 also states "God will give ear and humble them, he who is enthroned from of old, because they do not change and do not fear God." There is no guarantee that the person will change their ways just because we Christians try to live by the Bible and be an example, all we can do is keep following God and praying that they will come to know the Lord as we do.
This week I am focusing on learning to let go. Not letting go as in walking away, but more of a tough love kind of letting go. Some people just will not listen to any advice, no matter how small it may be and when it is hurting your relationship, those are the kind of people who just need to be left to make their own mistakes and find their own way. I will probably have to remind myself of this several times each day, but I'm hoping that it will give me some peace and diffuse disagreements.
I found this saying to give me strength through this portion of my journey...
With His truth in our hearts and our gaze on Him, the waves can be walked on. The storm may continue to rage on, but we will be safe in His arms. May we fix our gaze on God, determined to run the race that is set before us, with complete faith that He is working it for our good.
When I was searching some topics on the Focus on the Family website, I saw their recommendation for a book by Karla Downing. I then found her website, which talked about letting go, and these statements which I will be reading again and again...
To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anyone, but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more.
And last, but possibly most importantly, some more hope. The article in which I found this quote had nothing to do with my situation, but it still stood out to me. What I love about it is that it is written in the past tense and that it is a definite. God gave her what she needed for each specific day. God did it for her, and He will do it for all who ask. The day may not be pretty, but he will get us through it if we just keep leaning on Him.
God gave me what I needed for each specific day.
source: Melissa Caddell - MomSense Magazine Spring 2012
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